The 4 Seasons of Love

Some of you may already be aware of "the 4 seasons of love". For those who aren't, let me be the one to school you. Many of us have fallen into this cycle of repetition each year. Our relationship status seems to change with the seasons: winter, spring, summer, and fall. Winter is often referred to as "cuffing season". During winter we want to cuddle, have somebody to spend the cold snowy nights with. A companion at our side to celebrate Christmas with, bring in the New Year, and somebody who will cherish us on the 14th of February. By the time spring rolls around, the temporary love has faded once again and we have entered into the "break-up season". You have some couples who actually find "love" in the spring, but for most of us we are no longer living in relationship bliss.With summer being right around the corner, many of us no longer want to be in a committed relationship, especially males. Once summer hits, it is officially time to be single and mingle. For 3 months people engage in quick, meaningless hook-ups with the intentions of not catching feelings for anybody. Last, we have fall, the season of "crushing". From September thru December many of us have that one person we admire from afar but take time to approach for whatever reason. The 4 Seasons of Love...go figure.

Red Bones vs. "BLACK" bones?

Clearly, by my default photo you can see that I am a dark skin African American female. That being said, I think of myself as quite attractive. For years we have heard debates about which skin tone is more attractive, light or dark. Last week while, reading random posts on Facebook, I came across a status that said "What's up with all these dark skin females claiming to be red bones, they are dark bones, they need to give us our title back". I became so enraged after reading this because of how ignorant it sounded. Black bones? What exactly is a black bone? What exactly is a red bone? Both terms are ignorant. This statement coming right after popular rapper, Lil Wayne laid down the line "Beautiful black woman, I bet that bitch look better red" which enraged women all over the country. I cannot help to wonder why as African Americans we set ourselves apart from each other by different levels of our skin tone when for generations we were outkasted,lynched, and killed for just being black. Several decades ago, no matter if you were light, dark, fully African American, or mixed we were ALL considered black niggers. So why now, would you divide your own race? Separate it into categories and make such statements about each other? I have seen drop dead gorgeous light African American women as well as beautiful dark African American women. It angers me to see my own race act so ignorant. Black is beautiful. All black. Whether you are light, dark, or somewhere in-between.
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